VIDEO #1: HOW TO BE AN ALLY
VIDEO #2: DON'T BE A BYSTANDER
ALLYSHIP VOCABULARY + HOW WE ARE ALLIES AT HAVEN
CULTURE OF ALLYSHIP AT HAVEN
At Haven, we are working to create a culture of allyship;
a culture where people speak up for and do what is right.
That is the “Haven way.” How we do it is the “Northstar” in you
TWO WAYS YOU CAN BE AN ALLY
1: It is done by getting to know people instead of judging them.
Appreciate people for who they are. Recognize similarities and honor differences.
2 : Be an ally
Don’t Join In.
By not doing anything you send the signal the behavior is not OK.
Includes laughing, staring, pointing, or cheering for the bad behavior.
Support targets, whether you know them or not.
Be kind, ask if they are OK, ask if they need help, Ask what else you can do and make sure they know they’re not alone.
**Information has been adapted from the Anti-Defamation League’s Be an Ally curriculum.
ALLYSHIP VOCABULARY
ALLY (aka INTERRUPTER):
Someone who speaks out on behalf of someone else or takes actions that are supportive of someone else.
TARGET:
Someone against whom mistreatment is directed.
BYSTANDER:
Someone who sees something happening and does not say or do anything.
AGGRESSOR:
Someone who says or does something harmful or malicious to another person intentionally and unprovoked.
AUDIENCE:
Someone who encourages a harmful/malicious/negative situation by watching, cheering, etc
BULLYING:
Repeated actions or threats of action directed toward a person by one or more people who have (or are perceived to have) more power or status than their target in order to cause fear, distress or harm. Bullying can be physical, verbal, psychological or any combination of these three. Bullying behaviors can include name-calling, obscene gesturing, malicious teasing, rumors, slander, social exclusion, damaging a person’s belongings, threats and physical violence.
CONFLICT:
Conflict is a struggle between two or more people who appear to have different goals or desires. Conflict occurs naturally as we interact with one another. It is a normal part of life that we will not always agree with other people about the things we want, what we think, or what we want to do.
Bullying:
Aggression is one sided
There is a disagreement
No disagreement
Imbalance of power
One side enjoys interaction and the other doesn’t
Not angry at the person
Repeated behavior
VS.
Conflict:
Both sides are aggressive.
There is a disagreement.
No obvious imbalance of power
Neither side usually enjoys the interaction
Often angry or frustrated the person